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Ladies, I don’t understand some of you and how you choose to vote. But I really don’t understand if you think women shouldn’t be voting. Especially if you are a politician.
I first heard about this strange, right wing, conservative phenomenon with Kansas state senator Kay O’Connor. She said she couldn’t support women’s suffrage today because it started the “erosion of family values.” This was way back in 2001…long before the Tea Party came about. I think she was ahead of her state’s rights time. [source]
Now we can add Mississippe Tea Party leader Janis Lane. Here are her words of wisdom:
“I’m really going to set you back here. Probably the biggest turn we ever made was when the women got the right to vote. Our country might have been better off if it was still just men voting. There is nothing worse than a bunch of mean, hateful women. They are diabolical in how than can skewer a person. I do not see that in men. The whole time I worked, I’d much rather have a male boss than a female boss. Double-minded, you never can trust them…[source]
Exactly the kind of person you want running any kind of political party. Divisive. Sexist. Harshly critical of 50 per cent of the population she’s supposed to be helping.
She does add:
…Because women have the right to vote, I am active, because I want to make sure there is some sanity for women in the political world. It is up to the Christian rednecks and patriots to stand up for our country. Everyone has the right to vote now that’s 18 or over (who is) a legal citizen, and every person that’s 18 and over and a legal citizen should be active in local politics so they can make a change locally, make a change on the state level and make a change in Washington, D.C.”
Thank goodness Jane has our backs…ugh…
With friends like these, who needs enemies.
Does this mean she doesn’t support female politicians?
Does she only campaign for men?
How do women candidates feel about working with her after reading her words? Are they okay with it because they secretly feel the same way?
Is the Tea Party really only for white men? White Christian redneck men?
And when did being a redneck become such a good thing? I thought we were supposed to strive to better ourselves…seriously, people, even the Duck Dynasty folks are just playing a role…
I hope smarter, tougher, wiser women are running for office in her area to counter her ignorance. Or god help all women…
Poor Rachel Canning didn’t like the rules at her parents house. So she moved out. Now she’s suing them for her college tuition to be paid in full. You know, because she’s a spoiled ass American Princess! [source]
I don’t even know where to begin…
Let’s start with the idea that parents owe their children a college education. This is patently false. And if you, as a parent, are putting yourself and your family in jeopardy putting anyone other than yourself through college, you are making a grave mistake. Your financial future is more important than your child’s education. They can earn the money, take out student loans, or figure out an alternate career. Yes, student loans are devil spawn, but they are better than you mortgaging your future for a someone else’s college degree.
Canning moved in with her best friend, whose father happens to be an attorney. I am assuming he influenced her in some way, since he is paying her legal bills. Does he need money so badly? Does he truly think that an adult child suing her parents for an education sets a good precedent?
Canning has exhibited nothing but sheer immaturity. It might seem like a grown up thing to sue someone, but it’s not. It’s a cowardly thing to do unless someone has been gravely injured. Frivolous lawsuits are why lawyer jokes are told. Frivolous lawsuits are why the courts are backlogged leaving real cases to molder.
This case demonstrates the inability of children to even grow up these days. No matter what the reasons (I blame parenting, by the way) kids no longer look at the age of 18 as the time to leave the nest and start their adult lives. They look at 18 when they might go to college or might get a job. But they aren’t invested in leaving the house and getting an apartment, finding a spouse, and starting their own lives.
Parents, every single time you treat your high school junior and senior like a baby, you chip away at their autonomy. If you solve every problem that they encounter, why should they learn? I’m guilty of this myself. But I’m learning!
I’m worried about this case. What if the judge decides Canning is owed a college education? What if he decides parenting doesn’t end at the age of 18? What does that mean for all of us?
Frankly, I don’t want to be parenting my 40 year old because he doesn’t want to find a job and stop playing his XBox. Do you?
Update: Yesterday the judge ruled against Canning for high school tuition, monthly support, and legal fees. However, the parents must keep her on their health insurance policy and the subject of college tuition will be addressed again in April. [source]
Earlier this year, Salt Lake City’s Uintah Elementary School drew the wrath of the entire nation when it cracked down on deadbeat lunch accounts. Instead of asking parents to pay up, they waited until the kids were in the lunch line, lunches in hand, discovered they were in arears, tore the lunches out of their hands, tossed them into the trash, and replaced them with an alternate lunch of fruit and milk. [source.]
No one knows whose bright idea it was to do this. A school administrator? Lunch room supervisor? Food service manager? No one has been identified as being responsible for Lunchroom Gate. Perhaps for their own safety, since the story went national and people reacted quite emotionally. In fact, a similarly named school in South Ogden, Utah, received so many calls about the debacle they had to bring in extra staff. [source.]
Unfortunately, it’s not the end of the story. Uintah Elementary School is back in the news. “The district issued a request for proposals from public relations firms for up to $49,999 — $1 shy of what’s required for full board approval, according to the district’s administrative procedures.” [source.]
Nice work around, people.
First question: why does a public school district need a public relations firm? You have a captive audience. You have no one to impress. I doubt many of the families in your district will move their kids to another school. Even if you aren’t kid-friendly. Seems like a lot of hassle and work.
Second question: there wasn’t anything better to do with $50,000 for the kids in your district? In my district, teachers and programs have been cut. The money could bring back sports, after school programs. Maybe kids could have art, music, and PE more often.
- You could be totally frivolous with the money and still do something for the kids:
- buy every child a new book/backpack
- invite James Patterson to speak
- have a pizza party
- go skiing
- go to a professional game
- buy sports equipment
- buy computer equipment
- invite a boy band to perform
- have a circus stop by
- bring a Ben & Jerry’s truck in for the afternoon
- take everyone to a movie
- send staff members to sensitivity training
Why take money from the kids to fix a mistake that should never have happened in the first place? Talk about throwing good money after bad!
What would you suggest they do with $50,000? Any advice?
Other than never make the same mistake twice?
Last week an article went around about a nine year old girl who was being bullied about her weight at school. Her peers would yell “how do you fit into pants?” and other charming things. The solution? She would post her before photos on a website and start dieting and working out to become worthy of their praise.
Another article reports an overweight high school student becoming the school’s “healthy project.” How? Everyone in the school is “encouraging” him to eat better and to exercise. Some think that the original bullying he suffered was a good thing because it has motivated him.
Stop right there.
Every single fat person you talk to who was fat as a child was bullied. We all suffered similar taunts as we walked the halls of our schools, played on the playground, and lived with our families. For me, it was walking through my high school every single day with the boys yelling, “Sue-ey” every damn time. I learned at an early age that complaining accomplished nothing because…well, I dared to be fat. No one should have to live like that.
Listen, Mom, the problem isn’t with your fat child. The problem isn’t with your parenting.
As a mother, I know how guilt-wracking parenting is. We stress 24-hours a day about doing it right, doing it as good as the lady down the street, and creating children who will amount to something. Every single thing our children do reflects on us. Unfortunately, in our modern times, being fat is the worst thing you can be. And some of you are feeling the guilt of having a fat child.
Stop right there.
I’m not going to repeat the research here. Go research Health At Every Size, and see the statistics on dieting, weight loss, and regaining. See how overweight people can still be healthy when they eat healthy and get exercise. Learn about eating disorders and how girls and boys are being treated for them at earlier ages than ever before. Learn about the $65 billion diet industry in our country.
But please understand that the problem is not you. The mean kids are the real problem here, the bullies themselves. They are the ones who need to change.
Who in the hell gave these little monsters the right to terrorize your kids at school or on the streets? Who made them better than your kid? Who made them decide to make your child’s life miserable because of they way they look?
I say their own bad parenting did it…and that’s what you have to remember.
Honestly, no one knows why your child is fat. There are so many reasons up for grabs. You can only control some of them. You can–up to a certain point–provide healthy food and encourage exercise. The rest is genetics, environment, economics…lots of things many of us don’t have as much control over as we would like.
What can be changed are the children who are bullying your child. They can learn to control their behavior and learn that bullying is not allowed. Ever. For anything. Their parents can feel the guilt of having raised children who are mean and ill-spirited.
Schools need to intervene for weight bullying as much as they do for other forms. However, from my experience, the bullying interventions at my sons’ schools has been hit and miss. I don’t have a lot of faith that there are consistent policies in place for any of our kids. That’s why parents need to be involved and in the school’s face. Also, the schools need to face their own stigmas against the overweight.
I know it’s difficult because of the stigma on being fat in America. If you take away nothing from the weight discussion, at least consider the research on yo-yo dieting that shows that while people might initially lose weight on a diet, the majority (around 95%!) inevitably gain it all back, plus some more! This happens every time you diet. Don’t let your child start dieting and stop the cycle in the beginning.
Ask yourself: Would you let your child be bullied for a lisp? For wearing glasses? For being handicapped? Of course not!
So be your child’s hero and step in. Fight the fight for them. Understand that letting kids be bullied–and putting the responsibility for this wrong on their shoulders–is misplaced. Your child has one body. Don’t make her hate it. Make her love it as much as you love her.
Give the bullies hell.
I got a snippy comment about the posts I make about race here and on Facebook.
The commenter wanted to know why I am so concerned about black people when I am white. First of all, I care about all people. I don’t need to be concerned about a person’s skin color to want them to be treated fairly. The same way I don’t care about religion or sexual preference or any other things people choose to do with their lives.
But I wonder if the commenter bothered to look at my pictures to see that all my kids are black?
See, when I adopted my kids, part of me became black.
I don’t even know if that’s politically correct to say or think. Maybe I am offending black people even writing this. But it’s how I felt and how I feel.
My kids have no color to me. They are my kids. I would do anything in the world for them. But I knew the minute they entered my home, my neighborhood, the school, the community, that they were different and people treated them differently than they treated white people. I made it my business and my primary job to never let it be in a negative manner.
I also made it my job to learn about what it’s like being black in America as much as I can by reading and learning. I try to teach my kids about their heritage. I instill pride in the people who made their lives what they are today.
Luckily, we don’t encounter much racism locally. The funny looks we attracted when we first moved to town have evolved into the comments any family gets: “They’ve all grown up!” “Remember when he was a little boy!”
But I see a lot of things in social media that disturb me. Off-color jokes. Assumptions made about a person’s character because of the color of their skin. Conclusions about parenting because of skin color. Welfare status because of skin color.
We have a long way to go. And I will continue posting about race until we get there.
Because I am a mom. I am not a color. And I am.
Ted Nugent made headlines again last week for campaigning with Greg Abbott, a gubernatorial candidate in Texas. Abbott had no problem traipsing about the Lone Star State with the Cat Scratch Fever rocker who has made a name for himself for calling the President a “subhuman mongrel” and his vile attitudes toward women.
Liberal media went nuts. Abbott pretended he knew nothing about Nugent’s reputation. Nugent pretended he knew nothing about his reputation. Fox News says it’s everyone’s fault because…well, everybody does it.
I don’t let my kids get away with that, and I’m not letting them get away with it either. Because the case of Ted Nugent goes way beyond normal political sniping.
Ted Nugent called a human being a subhuman mongrel. This term has it’s origins with Adolph Hitler and the Nazis. Wolf Blitzer did a story on the origins of it and concluded:
…the words “subhuman mongrel” were used by the Nazis to “justify the genocide of the Jewish community.” We found ample evidence that the Nazis used those words — in their own language — to repeatedly describe Jewish people in the build-up to the Holocaust.
Nugent is a dangerous dangerous man communicating with a dangeous subsection of our population who are vilely racist. In 2014, black men, Hispanic men, men and women of any color than white are considered subhuman by many of our neighbors and fellow citizens. No one seems to want to talk about this. But we need to.
We don’t need to take a step back in time. We need to go forward, which means men like Ted Nugent and laws like Stand Your Ground that reek of racism need to be repealed.
The fact that politicians are willing to campaign with Nugent is a scary prospect. What is their agenda? They are always white, Republican, Tea Party-backed. Mostly from the South, sometimes waving a Confederate flag at their rallies. They favor states rights’ and wait for the day they need to take up arms against the Federal government.
Except they aren’t waiting and they are taking up arms against United States citizens. Maybe against you. Or your family. Or your friends. Neighbors.
To clarify, Nugent isn’t racist only against black people. He also thinks it would be fun to shoot Hispanic people from a helicopter in East LA like “feral hogs.”
He is a dangerous dangerous man, spouting a dangeorus rhetoric, and politicians are encouraging him. Almost like they hope he will incite some damage and destruction. Is Abbott hoping someone shoots President Obama? Is Abbott hoping someone comes to Texas to take care of an immigrant problem?
Why else would these people choose to even associate with someone like Nugent?
As citizens–Democratic & Republican–we have to ask ourselves how long we are going to stand for this nonsense? When are we going to stand up and call “foul”? This is our country, not the Tea Party’s. We can take it back.
Something is happening that should be scaring the hell out of those of us who can read, write, calculate, and pass basic science classes. We are being outnumbered by those who can’t. No, I’m not being overly dramatic, because it’s truly happening.
Through my internet meanderings, I’ve come across the evidence repeatedly. Last week, I was following the comments on a well-known newspaper’s on-line site for an article regarding women’s issues. A few men chose to weigh in, and I was glad to see their opinions. Until I saw their grammar and spelling. Sorry, sir, but there is a big difference between a “fetus” and a “fetish” which might explain why you are having, um, problems.
I see protest signs from Tea Party members that are misspelled. For instance, the word is “morons” not “morans.” Which is alarming since I think they feel they are intellectually superior to many people of color in our country which is why they want them gone or suppressed or…
Frankly, I blame the Republican Party and John McCain for this. Once they opened the door to the Sarah Palins of the world, giving them equal footing with actual educated people who would have been qualified to be vice president, they opened the flood gates for this spewing of ignorance that surrounds us daily.
Anything to get a vote. How did that work out for you? How’s it going now?
Now we are stuck with people like Ted Nugent campaigning with actual gubernatorial candidates. After he calls the President Obama a subhuman mongrel. Someone thought that was a good idea.
Male only panels making decisions about women’s healthcare. Men sitting on women’s healthcare panels who have no idea about basic reproduction. Male politicians who have no problem comparing human childbirth with cattle breeding.
When we have people on the science committees who have no actual knowledge of science, we are in major trouble. When a man on the oversight and reform committee leaks materials regularly there’s a problem.
While this would be amusing to watch from afar, it’s actually horrifying because it affects our entire future. Because these people are in charge of our nation’s children. They plan policies. They plan education. They maintain the environment. They are running our world. They are ruining our world.
Now how do we stop this? We stop listening to everything we read on the internet without checking it out. Right before I came to write this, I saw something so outrageous on Facebook it stunned me. I no longer correct people on their own threads because they don’t like that. (But if you want to believe that President Obama is letting the United Nations come to your house to take away your guns, you are completely wrong. If you think our country doesn’t need some sort of gun control, you are completely wrong. Ask any of the parents of all the dead kids…)
You start voting for people who are educated and can demonstrate some knowledge of politics. You make sure they aren’t being courted by lobbyists and corporations at all times. When politicians are being courted for committees and you have some input, make some!
Question everything. If it seems to good to be true. If it seems outrageous. Check out many different sources before you believe something. And remember, Bob’s right wing news isn’t really news. It’s some guy in his mom’s basement making stuff up. Rush Limbaugh also isn’t a news source. He is entertainment. Fox News is also entertainment. Hell, most of the news channels are entertainment these days. Check internet news sources. There are some reliable ones. Start hunting and bookmark!
We can’t sit by any longer and let stupidity rule the day! We deserve better than this.
On Facebook I came across a thread discussing abortion. It started with an article written by a woman who was happy that she had safe, legal access to abortion because she was not prepared for motherhood.
A few people tried to be civil. A few people used religion as a basis for being against abortion. Someone replied that they didn’t follow the same religion so it didn’t apply to them. Actually, it was a very pleasant conversation as these things go. It went on and on without name calling or shaming…
Until someone made the “keep your legs together and don’t get pregnant in the first place” comment. This is where the conversation always falls apart. That’s when I stopped reading altogether and I assume the conversation went downhill after that.
And that, people, is why we should never have to have discussions about abortion. Because it is such a personal, private issue that it is something that should only be discussed between a woman, her doctor, and her partner.
You don’t need to be involved. I don’t need to be involved. Our politicians don’t need to be involved. Churches don’t need to be involved except with the members of their own congregations who choose to involve them in the decision-making process.
The entire “keep your legs together” argument is simply insulting. Women aren’t whores. Birth control methods fail every day. No birth control method is 100 per cent effective. Even sterilization methods can fail initially. Women aren’t running around getting abortions willy nilly. Did you know that that reason abortion opponents have to make such a big deal about the 20 week limit is because so few women get voluntary abortions at that time? Women requiring abortions after this point are faced with heart-breaking decisions that don’t require input from you or me.
Women also aren’t stupid, and have considered their options. Adoption and motherhood were probably the first things they considered since getting an abortion isn’t an instantaneous happening. So don’t belittle them by pointing out how easy these options are. Unless you’ve given up a child for adoption or been a single mom in exactly this woman’s situation, she doesn’t need your advice. If she wants your advice, she will ask.
Because the reasons behind each and every abortion are varied and personal, there can be no blanket regulation for any of them. Which is why we need to stop talking and let the women who need abortions take care of them in private with their doctors. Look to the right and the left, and understand that the women a lot like yourself might need abortion services someday. It’s not only strangers or prostitutes or women who look different or women who are younger…they’re just women like you who need help.
It’s time to trust that each of us knows what’s best for our own bodies. I don’t want to be responsible, I don’t want you to be responsible, and I don’t want a politician to be responsible. I just want women to be safe, with legal and easily available abortions.
I’m talking about the Dove personal care people, not the chocolate people. As far as I’m concerned, the chocolate people are still tops with me!
But Dove the personal care people are like that one friend you have–we all have one. She’s not a particularly close friend. You don’t see her all that often. But when you do, you come away with the feeling that you’ve been bitch slapped more than once, formulating retorts 24 hours too late, and reeling from the never-ending stream of insults disguised as back-handed compliments.
Dove is trying to sell us shampoo, conditioner, body wash, and now deodorant to make our armpits look lovely. Did you know your arm pits are ugly? You probably didn’t until Dove told you they were ugly. And you need their product to make your armpits more attractive.
Thank God, Dove is here to save us from our ugly armpits!
I’m getting tired of these personal care products, diet products, whatever products, coming at us as a friend. A nice, caring, well-meaning friend…who wants to sell something. It’s like that mean girl from high school who now sells Amway and has your number on speed dial.
Trust me when I say Dove is not your friend (again, the chocolate company very well may be your friend…) and they are making things up to sell you a product. You do not have ugly armpits. Armpits are armpits. They are neither attractive nor unattractive…they just are. You don’t need a special deodorant with special ingredients to pretty them up. You can raise your arms no matter how they look. Whether you shave or not, you can raise your arms and reveal your armpits.
Do yourself a favor, buy a deodorant from a company that doesn’t make you feel bad about yourself. Skip anything from Dove. (Except the chocolate people…it’s Valentine’s Day soon…they have the hearts…perfect size…) Send them the message that we’re not buying into their marketing bullshit anymore. We’re tired of being made to feel bad so we’ll buy something to make us feel good. Our armpits are just fine, thank you very much!
What is it with those Palin chicks? Seriously? Every time something remotely controversial happens, Sarah and Bristol are out there giving us their opinions. Some might like hearing Sarah’s opinion since she is an adult with a checkered, half-assed political career. But what has Bristol done? Single mom on a dance contest? Cancelled reality star? Not exactly the moral or political leader of the world.
Yet, Bristol felt the need to tweet something about Wendy Davis, basically calling her a husband/child ditching, baby-killing Texan.
Wow, Bristol. Where’s your law degree from Harvard?
Conservative opponents of Wendy Davis came unglued when they discovered that some of the details of her rags to riches story didn’t add up. For instance, she described herself as divorced at 19 when she was only separated. And she only lived in a trailer for a few months.
What makes me sad and angry is that Wendy Davis had to give any amount of time to a nobody like Bristol Palin–a reality-star wanna be. She has nothing to say that makes a difference to the intelligent people of our country.
I find it interesting that Davis’ parenting is being called into question at all by conservatives. Where were they when Sarah Palin was prepared to leave her newborn son and young children while she went off to be Vice President? Maybe Sarah should do something for all women right now and come out and call the critics of Wendy Davis out for their stupidity. It would be a uniting action.
I do hold hope for Bristol Palin. She’s still young. Maybe in a few years she will see that the world isn’t so black and white. That one woman’s decision isn’t always the right decision for all women. Or maybe she’ll learn that every thought doesn’t have to be tweeted.