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Earlier this year, Salt Lake City’s Uintah Elementary School drew the wrath of the entire nation when it cracked down on deadbeat lunch accounts. Instead of asking parents to pay up, they waited until the kids were in the lunch line, lunches in hand, discovered they were in arears, tore the lunches out of their hands, tossed them into the trash, and replaced them with an alternate lunch of fruit and milk. [source.]
No one knows whose bright idea it was to do this. A school administrator? Lunch room supervisor? Food service manager? No one has been identified as being responsible for Lunchroom Gate. Perhaps for their own safety, since the story went national and people reacted quite emotionally. In fact, a similarly named school in South Ogden, Utah, received so many calls about the debacle they had to bring in extra staff. [source.]
Unfortunately, it’s not the end of the story. Uintah Elementary School is back in the news. “The district issued a request for proposals from public relations firms for up to $49,999 — $1 shy of what’s required for full board approval, according to the district’s administrative procedures.” [source.]
Nice work around, people.
First question: why does a public school district need a public relations firm? You have a captive audience. You have no one to impress. I doubt many of the families in your district will move their kids to another school. Even if you aren’t kid-friendly. Seems like a lot of hassle and work.
Second question: there wasn’t anything better to do with $50,000 for the kids in your district? In my district, teachers and programs have been cut. The money could bring back sports, after school programs. Maybe kids could have art, music, and PE more often.
- You could be totally frivolous with the money and still do something for the kids:
- buy every child a new book/backpack
- invite James Patterson to speak
- have a pizza party
- go skiing
- go to a professional game
- buy sports equipment
- buy computer equipment
- invite a boy band to perform
- have a circus stop by
- bring a Ben & Jerry’s truck in for the afternoon
- take everyone to a movie
- send staff members to sensitivity training
Why take money from the kids to fix a mistake that should never have happened in the first place? Talk about throwing good money after bad!
What would you suggest they do with $50,000? Any advice?
Other than never make the same mistake twice?
The first move for Congress after the holiday break was to take up the issue of extending unemployment benefits for the millions of people whose benefits ran out right before the holidays or will run out soon. They weren’t covered in the budget draft that was adopted before the break, so it is being dealt with separately.
Of course, the issue was agreed to unanimously and each and every one of the unemployed will continue receiving benefits once again.
Wow, don’t we wish.
What really happened was that the Senate passed the measure, only after Mitch McConnell stood up and said he’d only vote affirmatively if the Affordable Healthcare Act (which is a fully funded, functioning law already) was delayed for another year. Thankfully a few of his fellow Republicans thumbed their noses and voted with the Democrats and got the measure passed. And now we wait for the House of Representatives.
And it looks like there won’t be an extension without some kind of miracle.
Which completely stuns me.
How can politicians who are “representing” these unemployed people, drop the ball like this? These aren’t lazy, corrupt people sitting around their homes while thousands of jobs go unfilled in our country. These are people who have no jobs available to them.
People will lose their homes. People will not be able to feed their families. People will suffer.
Politicians need to take a closer look at the budget and find the money needed to take care of the American people now. Perhaps taxing the one per cent another one per cent would be a good place to start. Making the banking industry financially responsible for the losses they caused might help also. Any other ideas?
PS I hope people keep tabs on how their representatives in D.C. vote and hold them accountable at election time!
Yes, you read that right.
Chrystal Bougon recognized a need. She saw that women bigger than a Victoria’s Secret model needed and wanted lingerie. So she opened a shop. In fact, her Curvy Girl Lingerie is the second brick and mortar plus-sized lingerie store in the United States, located in San Jose, California. She also sells on the internet. Chrystal also started a Curvy Girl Facebook page. When a customer asked to post a picture of herself, a real woman, wearing some of the lingerie she had purchased, Chrystal thought this sounded like a great idea.
I think any woman, no matter her size, knows what a big deal it is for a woman to post a picture of herself in lingerie. It takes a hell of a lot of moxie. Chrystal let women have a safe place. Because they looked good. They felt good. They’re beautiful and other women want to see them. They want to be inspired by women like themselves, maybe slip on a teddy at home. Maybe even have a few pictures taken of themselves.
It’s empowering for people to see people who look like themselves. Doesn’t matter who or what you are, you want to be normalized. And that’s what Chrystal did. That’s a good thing.
Until the Wicked Witch stepped in and decided that Chrystal was single-handedly contributing to the Ohmigoddeathfat Obesity Epidemic by letting this happen. On her business’ Facebook page. Where business customers sought her out to become fans. Where customers posted pictures. Where no one invited the Wicked Witch to visit, not even once.
I refuse to name the Wicked Witch (aka WW) or her nicknames. She has gotten more than enough publicity from her tantrums and childish behavior. The media fall all over themselves because she’s one of the pretty people that they love having before their cameras. Which doesn’t make what she says worth listening to.
WW went on her Facebook page and posted why obese people should not be allowed to exist. Sure, she sugar-coated it with words of health and fitness. But she makes such blanket claims that she has nothing to back them up. Bottom line: WW would like all obese people to hide away from her sight until they look like her. Or until they are only thirty or forty pounds overweight.
Someone reported WW’s post as hate speech and she was banned from Facebook for a few days. Apparently, Facebook is very very very very important to her because she fell apart. And called her publicist. Who called a few people. And then the WW started making the media merry-go-round.
One news show showed her bopping around her kitchen, perfectly coiffed, whipping up breakfast for her children. Then showed her exercising in the park with other fit mothers, each flinging a toddler about as exercise equipment. She kept repeating, “Anyone can do it! Like I do.”
Unless you work and can’t go to a mom and tot group in the middle of the day.
Unless you don’t have access to a safe outdoor workout space.
Unless you don’t have a healthy child.
Unless you are not healthy.
Unless you don’t want to work out with your child and prefer reading or drawing or looking at the clouds or…
According to WW, however, those are just excuses and you need to get over yourself.
CNN invited Chrystal Bougon and WW on for a sit-down. Which WW dominated with her non-facts. She managed to let everyone know they if they are ready to fix themselves she’s got a way to help them and they can contact her. Nice push for her business, right? And the hosts fell all over her. Chrystal was calm, cool, and collected, saying wise things when allowed. Somehow her video feed was lost, while we were all left with WW’s sneering duck-lip gasp, “you know, I saw women not just 30 or 40 pounds overweight but…obese…[grimace]…morbidly obese [shudder]…”
The hosts never once challenged one of WW’s “facts” or any of the things she was spouting as truths. In fact, the real issue shouldn’t have been the War on Fat at all, but the fact that Fat People Bother the WW and The Media Care. Because the WW can’t look at any of the women posting photos of themselves on the Curvy Girl Facebook page and know whether or not they work out. She cannot look at a photograph of a Victoria’s Secret model and know if she is metabolically healthy. Heck, are we even so sure WW is healthy?
Once again, shame on the media for being such a shoddy group of people. Why would someone even pick up this story? Surely people are getting kicked off of Facebook hourly. There wasn’t a better reason to cover? The good thing is I hope Curvy Girl Lingerie gets some great sales from WW’s tantrum.
All Chrystal wants to do is give a safe space for regular women to be seen. Women who have scars, stretch marks, sagging, excess skin, weight…whatever. There’s no airbrushing or photoshopping. There’s no body shaming or snarking. There’s nothing but camaraderie for women who have lived life and are still living life without the fear of eating a cookie or missing a workout. By the way, she never even calls them curvy…just regular…like you…like me…like my neighbor…like my best friend…
Last week I addressed a letter that may or may not have been intended for the neighborhood children. I’ve heard rumors that the letter was done as a “joke” by a radio station. Yeah. Real Funny.
Honestly, I thought calling the neighborhood kids moderately obese was dastardly. I mean, who does something like that on a holiday that is built on consuming treats? No one’s advertising bananas and apples as the ideal Halloween treat! Kit Kats. Reeses Peanut Butter Cups. Candy, candy, candy!
How would you feel if your kid came home with candy, but attached to a graphic anti-abortion pamphlet? That happened in New Mexico. I would be furious if this happened in my neighborhood. Halloween is not the time to share your beliefs about reproductive rights. Do that with your adult peers. Kids want treats, not political rantings.
(Although if this did happen in my neighborhood I might be forced to counter it with condoms and the morning after pill going out with the candy.)
What if you attended the Halloween costume parade and saw a child from the school dressed as a klansman? Yes, as a member of the KKK. It happened in Virginia. Lordy, kids at the neighborhood school nearby aren’t even allowed to wear masks, much less hoods. Klansman hoods.
Originally I was hoping the child had no idea why he was dressing up as a white witch. But after reading quotes made by his mother, I’m sure he’s aware of what his costume represents. I imagine he’s a bully. Here’s what Mom has to say, according to the referenced article:
Jessica Black of Craigsville told WHSV in Virginia that there’s nothing wrong with the costume or the Ku Klux Klan. “It’s suppose to be white with white. Black with black. Man with woman and all of that.”
That’s one little boy I don’t want coming over for a play date!
I say it over and over again that adults are ruining childhood for our kids. These things just further fuel my argument.
I grabbed this image from the new tumbler, We Don’t Need An Excuse. Read this. Process this.
Do you know what a total and complete asshat douche canoe someone has to be to pass this out at Halloween?!
For god’s sake, turn off your porch light and hide in the dark. But don’t be a jerk to the neighbor kids. Yeah, you’re probably the one who keeps the balls when they roll into your yard and yells when someone steps on your grass. So it’s not like you’ll be missed or anything at the block party.
If you are someone who feels that this is the right thing to do I have a few questions:
1) What, exactly, is moderate obesity? Do you have a scale hidden under the welcome mat? Is this something that can be seen with the naked eye?
2) When did sugar and treats become completely off limits? Are you so sure that I, as a parent, need your input into my child’s diet?
3) Who appointed you king or queen of this neighborhood?
4) What happens if my kid is fat? Maybe it’s not as terrible as you’ve been led to believe.
I’m not linking to the links that answer some of these questions. Check out these bloggers, who do some great work with the science behind the madness instead.
And eat a Snickers…you’re not acting right!
I know, I know…that sounds silly. But I’m tired of being slapped upside the head every day with the plastic perfection that passes for beauty in today’s media.
I noticed it while I watched the Jodi Arias trial–my springtime obsession. All the experts were perfectly made up, perfectly coiffed blonde model types. Almost every single expert fit that mold. Which made me start noticing other “experts” on other shows.
I’m not doubting their expertise in any subject. But I wonder where the average, real looking people are who might actually have the same or more expertise? Are they out there? Do they exist?
I went to graduate school to get my masters degree in clinical psychology. I remember one gorgeous girl from the class; the rest of us were normal looking. Where did the model experts go to school? Is there a special graduate school just for model-type students?!
This isn’t to say I am not surrounded daily by attractive people. I have gorgeous friends and neighbors. Fellow school moms take my breath away. The ladies I graduated from high school in 1984 are, by far, the most attractive women I see on Facebook. Still, not one of them fills the “gorgeous” mold that I see on television.
Why is that? Who came along and decided that tall, leggy, and blonde were the default requirements for beauty in our country? It hasn’t always been this way.
I watch old movies and am amazed at the quality of the acting of Joan Crawford and Betty Davis. They are attractive, pleasing women. They wouldn’t get a movie role today if they begged. I watched Carol King perform with James Taylor and thought the same thing: she wouldn’t stand a chance in today’s musical arena.
I want the average, expert on the street to be given a chance to shine. I want one of my grad school instructors to appear somewhere as an expert.
I want to see and hear experts who are there on their actual qualifications, not on how they look.
I want to see some quirky, imperfect, mousy brown-haired woman knocking an audience dead with her knowledge of psychology, criminal justice, or politics. Don’t you?
If you’ve been on Facebook lately, you’ve probably seen the article circulating about two Texas women who have been pulled over for littering–chucking a cigarette butt out the window–and ultimately end up getting road-side cavity searches because the cop smelled marijuana. The two women have sued, officers have been fired, and basic health safety has been discussed because the same set of gloves was used on both women for both cavities.
Let me explain this even more clearly: two woman are pulled over at night on a busy Texas highway. One of them threw a cigarette butt out of the window of the car. (Honestly, I see this happen so often here in Chiburbia that I didn’t even know it was a crime. I might have to do some citizen arrests of my own!) The officer smells marijuana, but doesn’t search the car. Instead, he calls in a female officer who comes to do the cavity searches. Donning one pair of gloves, she probes the vaginas and anuses of both women, without ever changing the gloves. On the road, as cars drive by. All while being recorded by the dashboard camera. No marijuana is ever found. No arrests are made. Except those of the cops.
Where to even begin? There are so many things wrong with this and other people have done the finger pointing and head banging. But my ultimate question is this: what if this happens to you or I? What are our options right at that moment?
I imagine if I refuse the roadside cavity search/gynecological exam, that I will be instantly hauled off to jail. Do I avoid the embarrassment and inconvenience of an arrest and let them probe me? Do I put up a fight? I can’t exactly call the police…since they are the ones doing the initial wrong thing.
What would you do? How would you handle this?
I think this is something we really need to address and be prepared for. Because these things are happening. What do we teach our daughters? What do we teach our sons?
Most of all, when did the police stop being the good guys?
Did you think I was being abnormally silent on the outcome of the death of a young black man? I had to think carefully how to respond. I didn’t want to be one of the people on Facebook who called a dead boy a “thug.” I didn’t want to be the person calling for George Zimmerman’s head on a platter.
As I do a lot lately, I blame the media for fueling the fires of this case. Talking out of both sides of their mouths, they managed to send people into a frenzy. Some days it’s hard to keep track of who we’re supposed to be hating! I made it my mission to keep a level head.
I feel the pain of Trayvon Martin’s family. I am Trayvon’s mother. Every time my sons leave the house I have to worry. I don’t think parents of white boys worry in the same way. Maybe I’m wrong and we all open our doors and feel terror as our sons go into the streets.
No one really knows what happened that night. There are always three sides to every story. Watch the story end up in court and the story tellers multiply as experts are called to testify. Usually experts paid for by the side they are supporting. That’s not exactly unbiased story telling.
This was a tragedy on so many levels that I cannot begin a dissection. But I can encourage you to make some changes. Because we can’t change the past. We can only change the future.
Yes, you…we…us have the power to make the changes in our society. We do the voting that puts the people into power. We can vote. If we don’t vote, we also have exercised our powers in an apathetic way. We can elect people who reflect our values. We can not vote for people who are consumed with the greed of politics.
We can encourage politicians through communication and petitions to guide our local and state governments in the direction we would like. We can investigate who is behind certain laws. Are they truly states people who want a stand your ground law? Or is a political think tank responsible? Who benefits most from legislation? The people of your community or the businesses?
Our power is in our vote. And we need to exercise our power whenever possible to save our country from people who don’t have its best interests at heart. I know, I sound a little conspiracy geeked here. It seems politicians have lost sight of who government is here to support: The people.
When “less government” is being defined as let me into your uterus and your bedroom to see what you’ve been doing and cutting food stamps for women and children in need, there is something fundamentally wrong with America. I guess we no longer have to worry about the tired, the poor, the huddled masses. Unless they are they huddled board members of some investment firm who misappropriated funds and required a bailout and a change in laws to make it easier to save their asses. And we only want the homeless and tempest tossed if they don’t require any assistance of any kind and can work for minimum wage to line to pockets of the big box store owner, but can’t afford housing and healthcare.
Seriously, our priorities are all screwed up. And only we can make a difference. Educate yourself. Do your research. And vote.
Last week I nearly went on an unfriend spree on Facebook when links appeared to articles about the Texas pro-choice protesters being devil worshipers. It seems several “trustworthy” news sources (e.g., having “red” or “conservative” in their titles) reported that there were women chanting “Hail Satan” at the protests.
I did my research. I looked for a reliable news source. Hell, I would have even read something by Fox. I did find something at MSN, but I got the feeling from the comments that the source might not be neutral.
I saw a video of one girl walking by saying something. People have assured me she’s saying “hail satan.” But on my video it looks a little off. Another source said five women were chanting the offensive phrase. Five women can not be representative of the tens of thousands of women at the protest.
Still the stories were shared on my Facebook feed with comments like: “see who you’re really supporting when you support abortion” and “forgive them, they know not what they do.” Lumping all the pro-choice women in with the devil-worshipers. How offensive is that?!
See, I am vehemently pro-choice. I will fight for the rights of everyone. Even for the rights of people whose opinions I disagree with. It’s what America is all about.
But lately there has been a change in our country. We are no longer a nation founded on religious freedom, respectful of all people despite their differences. We have become a nation at war with ourselves: the people who wish to support the original wishes of our founding fathers and the people who want to control everyone with their narrow views. Instilling their limited brand of religion into politics where they don’t belong. Calling people who disagree with them devil worshipers is just another weapon in their arsenal.
I guess that’s easier than actually being educated on what happens during a woman’s reproductive cycle, what is included in a rape kit, and what happens during a rape. It’s easier to spread fear and disinformation than actual facts. It’s also more profitable (getting Koch brother money) to stomp on women’s rights than to actually earn campaign donations from pleased constituents.
Where I come from, Jesus taught us we had free will. We get to decide what we do and deal with the consequences. But in today’s society, the politicians want to dictate their values on anyone under their control. Unfortunately, it always ends up being women and minorities, but that’s a discussion for a different day.
They preach their twisted message from God, scaring people who disagree with them with eternal damnation, and reaping the benefits. Although I’m not sure what benefits come from forcing women under any and all circumstances to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term. Add to it a reluctance to allow birth control and we’ve got a hot mess of not making sense soup.
Basically, we’re battling over a woman’s free will. It’s her body, her choice. It is a decision to be made between a woman, her partner, and her doctor.
No one else needs to be involved. No one else needs to make judgments. No one else gets a voice.
See, it’s not devil worship. It’s human rights.
By now I’m sure you’ve heard about Senator Wendy Davis, the Texas senator who filibustered for 11 hours, preventing the passage of a restrictive anti-abortion law that would have basically made the state clinic-less. She’s been all over the news. All over the internet. Even her shoes–she grabbed her dusty running shoes as she went out the door–have become an internet sensation. She took them with her as she left in the morning because she knew she’d be standing for quite awhile last Tuesday.
Stand she did. She stood and talked non-stop. Stayed on topic. Talked. Talked. Talked.
And prevented the bill from being passed. Even though the opposing team tried to turn back time to get it passed on time.
I know you’ve heard this…and I hope you admire Senator Davis half as much as I do. But do you know that Senator Davis wore a catheter for her filibuster?!
She. Wore. A. Catheter.
She didn’t take the offered IV drip but she did take the catheter. While filibustering, the speaker isn’t allowed food, drink, or to leave the floor for any reason. They also aren’t allowed to veer off-topic or sit down. Senator Davis faced even harsher restrictions as the opposition also wouldn’t allow her ice chips and hard candy–which are usually allowed for other politicians.
This is a seriously dedicated politician. She came prepared to fight, armed with information and stories, and she prevailed.
Seriously, though, they wouldn’t let her sit? Go to the bathroom? Have a drink of water? Isn’t that torture?
I’m serious here…we give prisoners better treatment after murdering gazillion people but we can’t give something to people working the democratic process?!
This is where we’ve ended up, people. In order to win, one side fights dirty and the other side works their asses off. While one side bases all their platform on the ideals of a few rich white men, the other side listens to the people and responds to them on their own level. While one single woman dons a catheter, the other side refuses her food and water.
But you elected them. These are the people you’ve chosen to represent you. Mean, cantankerous, vengeful people. Don’t you deserve better?
P.S. Losing doesn’t count these days in politics, so a special session has been called to pass this (and two other issues that were lost in the shuffle). Texans, don’t you wonder where the money for this special session is coming from? What cost politics?!