The Blog Gang’s second outing is taking on the subject of happiness. Be sure to check out all the wonderful posts on this subject. You’ll find links at the end!
How do you define happiness? Research once suggested that our happiness level was a set point and we didn’t deviate on either side by very much. However, recent studies have suggested that we are more in control of our happiness than once thought.
Maybe it’s my advancing age (can someone say “middle age”?) but I find myself defining happiness as “contentment.” Several years ago, right after becoming a stay at home mom, I went through a rough patch. Suddenly relying on your husband for total monetary support is a complete act of faith. You trust that he will be taking care of your and your children. You sacrifice your job skills and position in your field. You spend day after day with a small being who is equal parts frighteningly and amazingly like yourself.
I started remembering day dreams from Young Susie. Where I would be. Who I would be. Who would be with me. Something amazing happened.
Not only had my deepest day dreams really come true. But in even better ways! If those dreams could come true, what else was possible?
That began my practice of gratitude. With it came contentment. I’ve realized that happiness is always there. In the small and huge moments.
It’s a favorite song on the radio. It’s watching your son stuffing his pockets with leaves and sticks on the way home from school. It’s watching your husband sleep. It’s watching in amazement as your graceful sons play sports. It’s laughing until your sides hurt with friends.
Happiness can be found almost everything and everywhere. Yes, there are times that happiness seems so far away that you know you’ll never find it again. But we do always seem to find it.
Or it finds us.
I can’t imagine living a life without happiness and contentment. I can’t imagine focusing on the past or the negative all the time. I’ve made it my life’s mission to try and add happiness into the life of everyone I encounter. I hope it’s working!