Yes, things happen every day that make us wonder what it’s all about. Kids misbehave. Appliances break. Weather doesn’t cooperate. Our hair flops. Spouses annoy us. Jobs stress us out. This list of things that can go wrong is really endless.
But we can’t focus on those things. Otherwise, life becomes a cesspool!
Having a sense of humor helps. If you can laugh about anything, you are on your way. Honestly, I can turn anything into a funny story. I like to think it’s my special gift. It’s when something gets too serious to be a funny story that I know I need to take a step back and regroup.
I come from a long line of people who live like this. When my extended family gets together, we talk about my grandmother. We cry for a moment, then we tell stories and laugh. Recently, my uncle passed away and when I spoke to my aunt, her first words were, “my life sucks.” Then she laughed.
There’s always something good happening. Before I go to sleep every night, I list five things I am grateful for from the day. I’ve been doing this for years. It comforts me. I repeat a lot of things. Some days I have to really reach for something to fill the five spots…but I do it. Because there’s always something to be thankful for.
Happiness can be a conscious decision. If you start your day with the idea that you will go through being positive and open to new adventures, you will be happier. If you wake up and tell yourself that your day will be happy, it will be. The opposite is also true: if you look for unhappiness and negativity, that’s what you find.
Does this sound woo-woo? Does it make you uncomfortable? Then you probably need it more than ever!
- Start a gratitude journal.
- Start your day with affirmations.
- Set your timer on your phone and at that moment look for something beautiful around you.
- Sit quietly and think positive thoughts about your family.
- Spend time with nature.
- Let yourself feel your emotions, but don’t wallow in the negative ones. Acknowledge them and move on.
- If you do get caught up in the negative for awhile (minutes, days, weeks) get right back to the positive and carry on. Everyone slips up once in awhile.
Life is too short to spend it being unhappy. So be happy. Make someone else happy. Smile and spread smiles wherever you go.
I’ll end with one of my favorite quotes. My life’s motto:
Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, covered in scars, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming, “Yahoo, what a ride.”