Posts Tagged ‘free’

I’m excited to be teaming up with Eden Fantasys and offering commentary on their site a few times a month. Don’t be alarmed! I won’t be reviewing sex toys–unless something really really catches my fancy! But I will be letting you know about all the cool things offered on the Eden Fantasys website. There are forums where you can read about products, sex and politics, sexual health, and a ton of other things! There’s Sexis magazine that explores–what else!–sex! I’m excited about the photography group!

How timely! I used a trip to Walmart and a trek through the aisles that happened to contain the condoms as a teaching moment this week. I won’t put the details here because my son will wither and die of embarrassment if he thinks anyone hears this story. Then I came across this post in the Eden Fantasys forums: Should condoms be made available at schools?

What a brilliant idea!

My stance with the twins was: having sex? Wear a condom. I will buy them for you if needed. But, if you are to embarrassed to buy a condom in public, you might not be ready to have sex.

But wouldn’t it be nice if my sons and your daughters had access to condoms whenever they needed them? I’d hate to think that someone got sick or pregnant because they were too embarrassed to ask for money or condoms. Lord knows, teenagers are not exactly logical creatures! Plus, if the problem is lack of funds, I should point out that you don’t need money to have sex.

Read the comments on the forum and you’ll find the there are people who point out that providing free condoms is akin to condoning sex with anyone and everyone. Is it really? Remembering my adolescence, finding free condoms would have created an urge to make obscene balloon animals rather than hunting down a boy so I could have sex with him. Kids who aren’t having sex or thinking about sex aren’t going to be swayed or forced to have sex because free condoms are available.

It’s the kids who are having sex or considering sex who should have access to condoms. Shouldn’t we–as knowledgeable adults–do what we can to provide teenagers with a way to remain disease and pregnancy free? It’s clear that teens have sex. No matter how much parents might lecture/discuss the benefits of abstinence, teens are ruled by hormones, egocentricity, and immortality. Instead of fighting that, we should accept it and help them make informed decisions.

Providing condoms in bathrooms at a high school would help so many teens. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather deal with someone who was having responsible sex than deal with an STD or an unplanned pregnancy.

I’ve got to go now and buy a box of condoms for the boys’ bathroom. I don’t know what I didn’t think of that before…

This commentary was provided in exchange for a gift card to Eden Fantasys–the sex toy store.